Sublime Sundays Part Four – Bright-eyed and not so Bewildered

Today has been very productive. It’s been a fairly manic day and my mind is overflowing with inspiration and ideas. I don’t want to give too much at this moment in time so I’m going to keep this post fairly brief but I have an exciting few months/year ahead of me!

I started today by doing exactly what I told you guys not to do in my first Sublime Sundays post and went to work but I set a time limit on myself and arranged to meet my husband at 2.30 in the pub so that I didn’t end up working too much. Over beers we discussed our plans of moving to London and our ultimate plans of, one day, packing everything up and going travelling. Talking about the amazing places we want to visit is something we do a lot but this afternoon there was a new optimism in our plans. We both know it’s years away but, for some reason, today it seemed like we were actually starting to put some sort of plan in place.

Sean enjoying his beers

It was also this afternoon that I told Sean my dreams of setting up my own business. I’ve recently been doing lots of extra studying in my spare time and I am currently enrolled in a couple of courses where I’m learning about starting your own business, marketing and accounts for businesses. Yesterday I realised that, although it will take a lot of work, starting my own business is actually something that I can achieve. Having the support of Sean means the world to me and I was so happy that he was excited about my plans too (he’s really quite grumpy so it takes a lot to make him smile or approve any ideas I have!!)

I feel like, for the first time in a while, that I have a realistic goal that I actually cannot wait to start working towards. I’m definitely bright-eyed today and, to some extent, less bewildered than I usually am. Now my mind is racing with ideas and I need to take a trip to Paperchase to make sure I have enough cute folders, post-it notes and coloured pens to get all of my ideas down.

Like I said, I don’t want to give too much away at this stage and it’s likely to take a long time to put my ideas into motion. I really need to focus on the new job search and move to London which is creeping ever closer but I’m really, really excited and can’t wait to share some of my ideas with you soon!

Fifty Shades of Get a Grip

Official Film Poster

I’m taking a few minutes out from learning about good business writing (yawn!) to sit down with my green super shake (mmmmm!) and write something a little more controversial than my usual posts.

This week, I’ve seen post after post about the Fifty Shades of Grey film. I’ll start by admitting that I haven’t actually been to see the film but I have read the books – I wasn’t impressed by the writing itself but I was hooked and couldn’t put the books down so I guess they were successful!

I’ve read quite a few blogs and other articles this week about how the film is “encouraging” and “normalising” abusive and controlling relationships. I’ve read other posts that say the film is setting a bad example to younger generations of women and impacting upon their expectations of men. The BDSM community seem to be up in arms about the portrayal of safety, or lack thereof, in the film. Women are flocking to the cinema in the thousands to witness the “ideal” of Christian Grey on the big screen.

So here comes the controversial part of my post……

…..People need to get a grip. It’s just a film.

Saying that this film is going to impact upon relationships young women (and men) will have in the future is ridiculous. If, after watching one film that is based on a fictional book, someone thinks it’s ok to be controlled by their partner in a way they don’t want to be, there’s bigger underlying issues. People are too quick to blame others, blame the media and, in this case, blame a film for their own mistakes.

I didn’t watch Finding Nemo and think that all fish can talk or that “fish are friends, not food” (I know the truth!!) My mum didn’t text me after watching Magic Mike with a list of things that I shouldn’t do: 1. Don’t become a stripper, 2. Don’t do drugs, 3. Don’t buy a Micro Pig, I figured those things out on my own. In fact, the only thing that I have ever taken from a fictional film to be real is the fact that Morgan Freeman is God.

There’s also another side to this that almost everyone else seems to have ignored – if someone wants their partner, husband, wife, whoever, to treat them that way behind closed doors and all parties involved are happy and safe, what has it got to do you with you?! There’s lots of posts around by parents saying that they don’t want their children to be involved in a relationship like Christian and Ana but have they ever thought about what their children might actually want themselves when they grow up?

If anything, putting the contents of Fifty Shades out into the public is going to make people more confident and comfortable with talking about sex, which for many people, is still a bit of a taboo subject. If a girl is happy to tell her friends that her boyfriend blindfolded her, if talking about their sex lives is something more regular, there’s a greater chance of any real problems being identified. Honesty and openness can only be a good thing.

To me the answer is simple, if you don’t want to watch Fifty Shades of Grey, don’t.

That’s my rant over for today, now it’s time to get back to reading about “Readability Statistics in Business Reports” until it’s time for The Voice!

The Most Important Things in Life: Family and Friends

This is a bit of a soppy, self-indulgent post but I’m going to write it anyway and just keep it short.

For me, my family and friends are the same, my friends are just the family I have chosen. They are the people you can see everyday or once every five years and it makes no difference. They are the people you can be forced to sit next to at school or a stranger you meet on the train and just get along with – you can chat for hours and hours and never be awkward or embarrassed.

Some of my gorgeous family in Zermatt

Good family and friends sip Jagerbombs at weddings with you and let you get in their bed the next day when you’re dying from the worst hangover ever! They Skype you late at night because they’re on the other side of the world and didn’t want to wake you up early. They laugh at you when you fall over skiing but pick you up and check that you’re ok through their fits of giggles. They offer you help and guidance and, although they don’t have to say it, you know that they’ll always be there for you.

Besties

They’re the people that, when you think about them, make you smile (and sometimes do that weird laugh you do when you’re alone and you blow more air through your nose). They’re the people that, when you think about them, make your heart swell with love and pride. They’re the most important thing in the world to you and you love every minute you get to spend with them.

Me and my sisters

Today you should call text or Skype your nearest and dearest – you don’t have to be soppy or actually tell them how amazing they are or how much you love them. Just chat, let them know you were thinking of them enough to be bothered to get in touch. Most of all, enjoy that time with them!

Sublime Sunday Part Three – One Photo per Day Challenge

This Sunday mainly consisted of me spending time with my husband after being away for a week without him so this post is much shorter than my previous Sublime Sunday posts.

We decided that we would make a start on our Wedding Invites but it took us almost all day to do four! Clearly I’ve been quite ambitious with the design given that every single element of each invite is handmade, cut and stuck together. I’ll post some pictures etc. in a couple of weeks once the invites have been sent out – I don’t want to ruin any surprises for our guests who read the blog too!

In my post My 2015 Bucket List I said that I would be writing down one thing that made me smile each day and taking a photo of something interesting or something that I liked each day. As I’m not ready to share the wedding invites on here yet I’ve decided that I’ll share my one photo each day pictures that I’ve collected so far. I’ve decided to put them up on my Instagram account today and will be adding to them each day from now on (you can follow me here). I’ve picked a few of my favourites and posted them below to give you an idea of what’s on my Instagram account, hope you enjoy.

As for the rest of my Sublime Sunday, my plan is to cook dinner, watch a film in bed and try not to think about how much I’m dreading going back to work tomorrow!

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Zermatt – Snow, Beer and a Wedding: Part Two

The morning after the wedding consisted mainly of sleeping and snuggling in bed with Summer. Just after lunchtime, I was sat on the balcony in the glorious sunshine and realised I needed to do something whilst I was in this amazing place. Whilst I wasn’t ready to hit the slopes, I decided to go to the Museum and learn a bit more about Zermatt. It was actually really interesting (I’m not usually one for museums) and I’d definitely recommend visiting if you’re in Zermatt (it’s free if you have a Swiss Pass).

Me and Sums in the snow

The evening events were already planned out by the Bride and Groom and around 7.30pm we headed out of Zermatt on the cable cars for Furi with sledges in tow. After getting lost for a few minutes, we soon found our restaurant and I had my first experience of cheese fondue which was delicious and just what I needed. Following dinner we tobogganed back down to the resort in the pitch black! I tried to video as much as possible on my GoPro but the lack of light made it quite difficult. Despite some of the toboggan run being pretty much up hill, it was really good fun.

The next day (Wednesday) was my first attempt at skiing which was so monumental that it might have it’s own post! The afternoon was dedicated to a family trip up to the Glacier and Ice Palace. The views were breathtaking from the top and the Ice Palace was pretty cool too!

Views from the glacier, Zermatt

Views from the glacier, Zermatt

Inside the glacier

Nick and Sums inside the glacier

Inside the glacier

Ice Sculptures inside the glacier

It was after skiing that reality hit that it was almost time to go home again. The cousins set off for a day of skiing in Italy on Thursday and after a couple of episodes of Peppa Pig (another first for me on this trip), I decided to go off exploring on my own. I set off with my hiking boots and camera for a few hours of walking in the snow. The weather was amazing again so I made the most of it and stopped off along the way for a beer or two on some deck chairs as I watched the skiers whizzing past jealously.

The Matterhorn, Zermatt

Hiking through the woods in Zermatt

Hiking in Zermatt

When I reached Furi I stopped for a Gluwein and decided that it was time to go back down again. Coming back down was much easier and I was soon back at the chalet watching more Peppa Pig.

Some Japanese food and warm Sake with the family marked the last night of the holiday (it was also a welcome break from all the cheese, meat and bread I’d eaten over the past few days). We managed to squeeze in a quick hot chocolate before jumping on the train on Friday morning and we said our goodbyes.

The holiday was amazing and I would definitely recommend Zermatt as a destination, whether you’re travelling alone or as part of a group.